respect

from wikipedia..

"Respect is an assumption of good faith and competence in another person or in the whole of oneself. Depth of integrity, trust, complementary moral values, and skill are necessary components.

Respect adds general reliability to social interactions. It enables people to work together in a complimentary fashion, instead of each person having to understand or even agree with every detail of another's method. And further more: If you dovetail things you get them working together. It is very important we dovetail our respective interests.."

huhuh..it sounds so complicated..so what is respect actually? basically for me..respect is to honor one's view..in my opinion respect is very important in a relationship..well you have to respect each other rite?

so what if both of you have different views? or both of you see the world differently? as long as there's respect..i don't think that should be a reason for you to say your relationship is going nowhere..no matter how angry you are with your spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend..respect must always come first..but we are not perfect..we always slipped and hurt people's feeling..sometimes without even realizing it..and most of that angry time..we disregard our respect towards our partner..(been there..done that..)

i have had this situation..where my ex-boyfriend went out with his ex-girlfriend when we were having a fight..he knows..that i think you shouldn't meet your ex(s) when you are in a relationship..that's my view..but for him its nothing wrong with it..i respect his view..i could let him be if he could only respect mine..by at least telling me he's making contact with her..or spending the time with her..

here's my painful account..i found out thru his email..its like God wants to show me something..he purchased movie tickets for two..the show starts at 930pm..i found out at 1115pm..without thinking i dressed up..unconsciously running while deciding whether to drive or take a cab..in the end i just prayed..that if God really wants to show me something..let this be smooth..right on..exactly when i reached to road side..a cab was in front of me..when i reached there..my instinct told me to stop at the car park..and i went in searching for his car..i thought i saw it..but i just couldn't believe it at first that i seek for help at the security counter coming up some strange stories..but then i wasn't mistaken..it really was his car that i saw..and i waited there..it was 1140pm..in just about half an hour..in my heart i was determined..if the one he's going out with is a guy..i'll take a cab home..but if its not..i'll leave it to God on what will happen..

alas..it was that girl..who in my opinion..doesn't really know how to respect and appreciate people..that girl used to dump my ex-boyfriend with insults and contempt..my ex-boyfriend at that time..who was penniless..who had nothing..scampered away every time he saw her after that..just to stay away from her view..who was she anyway? the daughter of a lord?..it was much to my disgust every time i saw that happened..

and now..when my ex-boyfriend has it all..money..car..good job..branded clothes..she made contact with him..get the vibes anyone? haha..most of the people whom i shared this with..said she's going to make my ex-boyfriend her spare-part in case her rich boyfriend dumps her..which i hope God forbids..because people who have the guts to abject other people..especially when they they are not in the position for it..is not suited to be with other people except themselves..a malaysian way to say it..who eats chillies gets the taste..hahah..

oh yeah..when i confront her..her reason was to make amends with him..yeah rite..behind my back..going out together with him..don't you know how to respect other peoples' relationship girl? coz if you don't..people won't respect yours..well..just take good care of your boyfriend girl..you won't want him to go away do you? and uhh..one more thing..relationships with your ex(s) who are currently someone's boyfriend..is not just your private life..you are interfering with another girl's private life..keep that in mind

i had a principle in my life that says..i won't contact my ex(s) especially when i'm the one who dumps them..but its been changed a bit an now became..if i want to make contact with my ex(s) i must let my current boyfried/husband knows and comfortable about it..if he's not..i'll do anything to make him feel comfortable..and if that ex of mine is already in a relationship..if its other than school reunions or formal meeting..i must make sure sure that his girlfriend/wife knows..and comfortable about it..(well actually the truth is..most women is not comfortable when they hear their spouse is seeing their ex(s)..)..so for me..its easier not to make contacts with my ex(s) at all..unless i really have to..i don't have to worry about hurting other girl's feeling..

so girls..rest assured..i'm the type that respects other people's relationship..and if you know about mine..then i would appreciate nothing more than your respect for my relationship..and to guys who are in a relationship..don't you dare to try me..coz if you do..i'll put you on my "men that cannot be trusted AT ALL" list..and publicize it if i feel like it..oh yeah..i'll find out about your girlfriends and tell them what you've been doing..perhaps it could help them decide whether to keep you or not..

ahh~..there's nothing sweeter than revenge..at times..

that's all for this morning's input..